fiddlehead.....every changing, ever growing

fiddlehead....ever changing, ever growing

Monday, November 28, 2011


It is with both a heavy heart and such gratitude that I am able to share that we have identified our sweet girl's birth mother.  It is simply amazing to me that this was possible.   That we now know more about her entrance into the world.  A world that is just not fair.    

It isn't fair that some people are born into situations in which they are unable to nuritious their children, have access to resources.   It is isn't fair that people have to create stories so a child can be brought into care when they aren't able to care for them.  It is all just unfair.   And yet, this all had to be for our daughter to come home to us.   Somehow it is all apart of the plan for all of us even if I don't understand it or the inequities of it all.

While I am not sharing Tessa's story, it is hers, I can say very important new information surfaced through the investigation.  

To start this search we shared what information we had from her referral and that is where the investigator started.   It doesn't seem it was that terribly difficult for the investigator to reveal the truth.  It was right there under the surface and just took some probing to uncover it.

Ethiostork did a very professional job at navigating the very sensitive issues surrounding a birth mother search.  They know where to start, who to talk to.   We know could have never done this ourselves without someone asking the questions for us to discover the truth.

The truth can be painful.  I also think it can offer peace, understanding and completion.  I am feeling all of these things, but mostly I am incredibly grateful.   

It makes me wonder if her birth mother is also feeling some of these things...the pain, the peace, understanding and completion.   I can't know for sure, but it seems to me she might be because she now also has information she didn't have before.  She knows her daughter has been adopted, in America, she saw a recent photo of her happy and healthy and also expressed her gratitude for us raising her.    

For over 2 years I have been sending prayers, loving and hopeful energy into the universe hoping it would reach her birth mother.   Perhaps it has been received.


Phoenix Peacock said...

<3 so much love.

Rachel said...

Wow. Would love to chat with you more about this at some point in the future. This is something that is never far from my mind.

scooping it up said...

Hubs has been in ET for the last nine days with a guide doing the exact same thing. Every single adoptive parent from ET needs to do this. You're right, I have heard and seen over and over again, asking a few questions, a little gentle poking around, and the people and answers we seek are often much easier to find than we thought possible. It changes everything to find the truth, even when the truth is hard. It's a jumping off point. So glad you've found her. I hope you can visit her soon. This is just the beginning.

The Lost Planetista said...

Super super intense stuff. And good stuff! Sending prayers of support for you to process everything you have learned.

Liz said...

So wonderful that you found her!

Thank you for visiting the fiddlehead report!